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Out in the Bay

Pagans at Xmas? Making holidays queer-comfy

Cooked holiday turkey

Just in time for holiday gatherings, tips for getting along joyfully with differences. Our guest says "nosy" questions can grease the turkey!

Author and civil rights lawyer Abby Dees tells our allies go ahead, ask LGBTQ relatives or friends your burning questions. If you’re queer, she says grin and bear it, even encourage those cringe-worthy questions.

Dees believes that if asking out of love, all questions are opportunities to broaden understanding. So she wrote Queer Questions, Straight Talk: 108 frank & provocative questions it’s okay to ask your lesbian, gay or bisexual loved one. Hear a bunch of them — and how Dees handles them — on this edition of Out in the Bay.

We also hear Dar Williams’ “The Christians and the Pagans,” about the Solstice-celebrating lesbian couple that drops in unexpectedly on a conservative uncle’s family on Christmas Eve. (It’s among my favorite holiday songs, brings a sweet tear every time I hear it! Learn about Williams’ songwriting and other workshops, her books, and her new music on her website.)

This episode first aired in 2013 and remains relevant today. Enjoy the dated terms and appreciate how far we’ve come!

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Eric Jansen is a long-time broadcaster and print journalist. A former news anchor, producer and reporter at KQED FM, San Francisco; KLIV AM, San Jose; and Minnesota Public Radio, Eric's award-winning reports have been heard on many NPR programs and PRI's Marketplace. His print work has been in The Mercury News, The Business Journal, and LGBTQ magazines Genre and The Advocate, among other publications. He co-produced the June 2007 PBS documentary Why We Sing!, about LGBTQ choruses and their role in the civil rights fight.