Pagans at Xmas? Making holidays queerly comfy
Just in time for potentially awkward holiday gatherings, author and civil rights lawyer Abby Dees says go ahead, ask your LGBTQ relative or friend the questions burning inside you. Like “Which one of you is the man?” If you’re queer, she says grin and bear it, even encourage your loved ones to ask those cringy questions.
Dees believes that if asking out of love, there are no stupid questions, they’re all opportunities to broaden understanding. So she wrote Queer Questions, Straight Talk: 108 frank & provocative questions it’s okay to ask your lesbian, gay or bisexual loved one. Hear a bunch of those questions — and how Dees has handled some of them — on this week’s Out in the Bay.
We also hear Dar Williams‘ “The Christians and the Pagans,” about the solstice-celebrating lesbian pagans who drop in unexpectedly on their conservative uncle’s family on Christmas Eve. “Makes me cry every time I hear it,” says host Eric Jansen. “It’s my favorite holiday song!” (Learn about Williams’ songwriting and other workshops, her books, and her new music on her website.)
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(This episode – first aired and podcast in 2013 – is still quite relevant. Enjoy the dated terms and references and appreciate how far we’ve come since then!)